trauma is a fact of life

I was doing some research about the emotional aspects of an oil and here's some of what I wrote:

- takes the hurt soul by the hand
- aids those with a history of trauma, self-destruction, loss or abuse
- restores confidence
- gives individual strength to carry on
- takes to new heights of spiritual consciousness
- teaches gratitude for trials
- raises the individual from turmoil
- teaches that wounds can be healed
- lends it's warrior spirit so one can face adversities with courage and determination

Trauma is a fact of life. War zones are closer than we admit. Not to minimize the combat that soldiers engage in to defend freedoms in any way. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath And there are "war zones" right in our own neighborhoods. In our own homes. In our own minds. 

One in five Americans has been molested. One in Five. That's 20%. And that is only what has been reported & recorded. One in four grew up with alcoholics. One in three couples have engaged in physical violence.*

What can we do? How can someone who has experienced loss, grief and trauma overcome? Or just live? Feel alive? I am no therapist or mental health professional. There are many layers of support needed for complete healing and restoration. But did you read the emotional aspects of that essential oil I was researching? I am a Certified Grief Support Specialist. I am an aromatherapist and I do know how aroma can powerfully shift someone OUT of despair and overwhelm. I know how aroma can train our minds to move from one emotion to another one - so why not leverage that power for good? 

Here's the deal.  I have experienced trauma. I have experienced loss. I am one of the statistics.  I am one of multiple statistics. I have been frozen with fear - actually terror - literally frozen. Can not get any muscle in my body to move not matter how hard I try to muscle through it. Cannot force my body to draw breath. Paralyzed. From the movie in my mind. I know that my silence is not helping anyone.  I started working on myself with essential oils decades before I sought to help others and became certified. I am still walking recovery paths.  I am still peeling back layers.  And one of my most powerful tools in my tool chest are my essential oils. 

The oil I was researching is dubbed "the oil of pain". Its name is helichrysum and it is one of the most valuable and expensive essential oils. I swipe a tiny bit under my nose and shift. And can breathe. And can take a step. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
— Marianne Williamson

I have held back from sharing with you about how much these essential oils have impacted me emotionally. I have held back because I have been afraid of judgement. Judgement about my past. Judgement about your perception of people who sell things. And I am sorry. I am sorry to all of you who are quietly suffering in your war zone.  Because I was afraid of the loud ones. But I will not be silenced by fear and judgement any more - because I know you are there. In the dark. I can feel you just like when I grope for the lightswitch in the pitch black. I know you are there and I want to show you ways to move closer to turning on your own lightswitch.  And then you will help someone else learn how to move.  And together we will all be brighter. 

Cheering YOU on!
Rosie G

*The Body Keeps The Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD